"we’re not queerbaiting these characters"
Your point would be somewhat valid if it weren’t for the fact that there are still a disgustingly large amount of people who do worry “about which character likes which sex” when said character isn’t straight.
For instance, rarely does anyone ever say, “I won’t play this game because it features a straight, white male protagonist.” However, when a non-straight character or a female character or a character of color is introduced, you see a string of comments which read like a homophobic, sexist, and racist horror story. When a character who doesn’t fall into the “straight and male and white” category is put in the forefront, suddenly game developers aren’t making memorable characters anymore, but they are instead “trying to shove their social justice agenda down our throats”.
What these problematic thinkers are really saying is this: “I’m cool with the sexuality of this character as long as they are straight. And you know what? It’d be better if they were white and male, too. Otherwise, I don’t think I am going to play this game.” The fact that these people take offense to characters that are different than what we normally get is one huge reason why this is such a growing issue.
The truth of the matter is, representation in any form of entertainment, whether it be video games or movies or television, is important. It’s that simple. And if you have an issue with it, you are part of the problem.